How can you overcome failure when its one of the most paralyzing forces in our psyche? It keeps us up at night, prevents us from following our passions, and wreaks havoc on even our personal relationships. If you took a second to step back and evaluate all the points of stress in your life, I bet the majority of them could be traced back to that nasty little soul sucker. But why do we fear it so much? Why is it so hard to overcome failure? Especially when its been proven to drive so many successes?
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.”
— Robert F. Kennedy
We are ALL plagued with fears, anxieties, and insecurities from the past and present that haunt our words, actions, and dreams. It’s just a fact of life of being a thinking and feeling human being. My argument, however, is that instead of letting those fears prevent us from living our best life, why not let them inspire us? For example, accept the reality that failure is possible and embrace it as a learning experience. To truly accept it, so that we can then overcome failure.
Failure is by no means an end, but more of a beginning. Once you figure out what doesn’t work, you’re one step closer to figuring out what does. Also, when you’re not eating and sleeping thoughts of dread over that reality, your mind is clear to embrace the lessons that are being presented to you. You are now able to grow in ways you may have never considered.
Look back at history, your idols, and even your family. How many times have they been faced with adversity that helped propel them to that elusive next level? They didn’t just roll over and die, they used those experiences to put a fire in their belly and attack the world with a vengeance. YOU will inevitably do the same! It’s human nature to want to survive and thrive. (Click here to read Richard Branson’s take on his failures)
Understanding and embracing this lesson is the awareness that failure is our friend. Instead of losing sleep at night helplessly worrying, drill down to worst case scenario and start building strategies for success. Overcome the fear of failure by mind mapping possible failures, cataloging consequences, and developing a game plan for overcoming setbacks. Embrace failure for the wisdom it can provide and let it empower you. The true meaning of being FearLESS is being able to look failure in the eye and not blink.
“The way to succeed is to double your failure rate.” — Thomas Watson, Founder of IBM
“Do not fear mistakes. There are none.” — Miles Davis
“99 percent of success is built on failure.” — Charles Kettering
“I have not failed once. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that didn’t work.” — Thomas Edison
“Give me the young man who has brains enough to make a fool of himself.” — Robert Louis Stevenson
“Adversity reveals genius, prosperity conceals it.” — Horace
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” — Henry Ford
“If your life is free of failures, you’re not taking enough risks.” — H. Jackson Brown
“I failed my way to success.” — Thomas Edison
“Failure doesn’t mean that you’re a failure … it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.” — Robert Schuller
“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald
“Failure is nature’s plan to prepare you for great responsibilities.” — Napoleon Hill
“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.”– Mary Pickford
“We are not retreating — we are advancing in another direction.” — Douglas MacArthur
“I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.” — Thomas A. Edison
“Fall seven times, stand up eight.” — Japanese Proverb
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” — Confucius